“Sino kasama mo?”
I now have that someone around asking me this occasionally. At first, I was surprised to have someone constantly repeating this question to me.
The closest of my closest friends would know that I would often go about things alone. Upon further contemplation on the road from Tuguegarao to Laoag, I realized that I have traveled to two new provinces in Luzon alone this year.
Yes, I am that kind – your strong and independent woman.
Being on the bus alone as I sat beside a couple on my left and a sibling on my right, I had hours to talk to God and think things through.
Perhaps God allowed me to be single for so long so that I can learn to stand on my own two feet. Perhaps, He has designed my life this way so that I can learn to believe in great favors from Him.
Every time I travel, I have a list of things I always pray for – even when it seems impossible.
- I’d ask for a taxi driver within the minute I start looking for one, someone who won’t ask for additional fare.
- I’d pray to avoid traffic and to arrive at the terminal early
- I’d pray for great waiting time – a place where I could wait for another 3 hours until my bus arrives
During this trip, I ended up taking the center seat – a plastic kiddie seat with no proper back support. This will be an adventure! I said to myself.
Little did I know that I’ll only end up sitting there for only an hour out of a seven-hour bus ride.
After lunch, I was sent to the back seat – an actual bus seat where I can enjoy a comfortable ride. The grandmothers beside me were very sweet and took care of my belongings. When an empty chair was available on their lane, they even called me back to seat beside them! Truly, what blessings could I not ask from my Abba Father?
As the long trip paved its way across rivers, mountains, bridges, and various road conditions, God revealed to me even more things.
Our singlehood is a time of training. In my years of living an independent life, I have learned to take care of myself.
I can now navigate myself around local and international cities alone. I have mastered conquering new places, to adapt to various transportation cultures and talk to different people. Pagnasuka ako sa bus, I can surely grab my own plastic to throw up to. I don’t need my Knight in Shining Armor!
On the other hand, my Knight in Shining Armor needs me. I am Harry’s Hermione, Aragorn’s Arwen, Han’s Princess Leia. Yes, this is what God told me.
He told me that I was designed to be someone’s Ezer Kenegdo. I am to be my future husband’s helper.
Having attended three Christian weddings in the past 34 days, I have learned that it will be the wife’s duty to support her husband in his ministry and life’s work.
“Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.”
– Ephesians 5:22
A strong leading man will need a stronger backup. Our heroes didn’t slay dragons, killed powerful sorcerers and won great battles alone! They were able to do it because of the skills, talents, loyalty, and love of the people that surrounds them.
I want to be that woman for my future husband. I want to be his person. I want to be the one God tells him to run to in the good and the bad, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health.
“He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.”
– Proverbs 18:22
Women, be the favor God is about to give to your future husbands.
If you are single today, I know it’s lonely and it gets tough out there. But these are stepping stones for you to become the wife God called you to be (if that is His will). Regardless, allow God to fill you with love and joy no matter what season you are in.
I am sending all my prayers to each one of you that you will find the fulfillment of God’s Word whether you are with someone today or off alone in this world. Remember that your completeness is not based on your relationship status but on your relationship with God.